Talk Therapy: Hard Conversations - The REAL Reasons We Avoid Them

Jun 13, 2022

This is the first episode in a new mini-series all about hard conversations. 

This week I'm talking about the real reasons we avoid hard conversations. Contrary to what we lead ourselves to believe, we are not always taking the higher road by not saying anything. Having healthy, hard conversations is taking the road less traveled and your relationships will thank you for doing so.

Here are just a FEW of the reasons I believe we avoid them:

• They require things we are afraid to give: vulnerability, humility, forgiveness, responsibility, boundaries
• A healthy hard conversation requires us to self-reflect.
• We look for quick fixes. A hard conversation doesn’t offer an easy out. The easy way out looks like gossiping about the situation or person but never bringing it to their direct attention. It also can look like harboring bitterness, resentment, or purposefully distancing yourself. But sweeping things under the rug ruin not only our relationship in the long run but also any other new relationships that come in because of unresolved conflict.

Conversation Challenge:

• What are you afraid of when you think of having a hard conversation? Take time to self-reflect and see what you can take personal responsibility for this week.
• "God, show me any fears or thoughts not from you about having hard conversations."

Resource mentioned:

Communication guide

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