May 4, 2022
This week on Real Talk with Rachael, I'm talking to mother and
daughter Dr. Helen McIntosh and Blythe Daniel, authors of Mended: Restoring the Hearts of
Mothers and Daughters.
Blythe Daniel is an author, literary agent, and marketer with 25
years of experience in media and publishing. She has written for
Focus on the Family, Proverbs 31 Ministries, and Christian
Retailing. She conducts blog, podcast, and publicity campaigns and
helps authors publish their books. She lives in Colorado with her
husband and children.
Dr. Helen McIntosh (EdD, Counseling Psychology) is a counselor,
speaker, educator, and author. Her work has appeared in several
national outlets including Guideposts, ParentLife, and HomeLife
magazines. She resides in Dalton, Georgia with her husband Jim.
They have two children, including Blythe McIntosh Daniel, and are
grandparents five times over.
Key Points from Our Conversation:
- Moms often do the hard work without getting a thank you.
Speaking encouraging words over a mom does something inside her
heart and inside our hearts.
- If we want appreciation from our kids, we need to start by
encouraging them. Being the initiator allows our kids to say kind
things back to us.
- When we’re in a hard relationship we tend to blame the other
person, but Matthew 7 reminds us to focus on the issues in our own
hearts.
- If you have a broken relationship with your mother, remember
that words bring life and death. Commit yourself to only speaking
words of life.
- Instead of telling our children what they should be doing, we
can ask them if this is an area they'd like us to speak into. Honor
and be humble before the other person. Even if we get it wrong, we
can ask for forgiveness.
- When we overhelp, it implies we think our child cannot do
something well.
- God designed us in a way that the relationship between child
and mother is foundational. You can honor a mother who didn't
necessarily earn it by separating the mess from the relationship
and being a blessing builder.
- Don't get so overwhelmed by your yeses that you can't be
focused and intentional during the season while the kids are in
your house. God will meet the desires of our hearts when we
sacrifice for our kids.
- You don't have to be perfect. You're not alone in feeling
underappreciated or overwhelmed. You’re making a difference and
you’re doing well.
- If you feel discouraged, take it to the Lord. He’ll show you
what the deeper issue is.
Resources Mentioned:
Ep.31: Restoring the hearts of
mothers & daughters {with Blythe Daniel & Helen McIntosh}
Let’s Get Real Practical:
Grieve the lack of a relationship with your mom if you didn’t
have it and consider seeing a therapist to help you process those
wounds.
Connect with Blythe: website | Instagram | Facebook
Connect with Helen: website | Facebook
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